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There are Days...

...when you wish for

1. a rainbow in the sky
2. a smile from a random stranger
3. a cup of steaming coffee made especially for you by a loved one and not by a machine (you see, the latter just doesn't have the aroma of love)
4. an auto driver who shall ferry you without demanding excess fare/cribbing about your destination
5. a glimpse of what future has in hold for you
6. A dance in the rains with your soulmate
7. A trip to those special moments in the past (to enjoy it, once more...)
8. and most of all, wings - to fly back home (no, air deccan is still expensive:P)

I guess, it's the effect of the season, which makes all of us wish for a little bit of magic in our lives...

In this season of joy and celebration, I wish all of you 'May Your Dreams Come True'

Voices of Dissent...

...are as unwelcome in the blog world as in the real world. Free speech, to that extent, is a myth...You don't agree ? Well, try browsing through the comments section in any blog...You will mostly find readers (again most blogs have a very captive audience...at least as far as posting comments go) either lauding the writing style or sympathising with the writer. There is never a dissenting voice. And, the odd dissenting voice is ferociously silenced by the blogger as well as the supporters with statements ranging from "You don't understand what is being talked about" to "This is for my friends, (read, supporters) if you don't agree with my views stay away" ...

Agreed, if your opinion is different from what is expressed in the blog, they usually don't resort to physical violence like some totally intolerant people in the real world do...but, that's all...the tolerance levels do not even extend to the level of 'agreeing to disagree'... I wo…

When Idols Resurrect...

...it is such a heady feeling !!! Afterall, you choose an idol with tremendous care..atleast I do...I have very few idols in my life...But the chosen ones..I look upto them...try to emulate them...pride myself when I am able to do it...And then, one fine morning if the idol falls, or so much as even slips, it hurts...you try to justify the slip as another logical step...but all your logic fails...and you wonder whether you were wrong in your choice...you are uncertain and confused...

Then along comes days like today, when you realise that you weren't wrong...your idol has not fallen...in fact my idol in my workplace just proved what an amazing individual he is...and I was reassured that the reasons why I chose him as my idol and role model still shine bright ....

Yes, I am floating on the highest clouds today...

Travelogue

...Ofthe journeyfrom dreams toreality...Theway the scenerychanges...howattimesthescenerybecomes morepowerful thattheroadandyou decidetofollowit....redrawing the map...

Ofstrangers ontheroadside ...somewhojustwaveandgoon...otherswhojoinyour journey...stillothers whomyou join...

And somewherealongthewayyou realisethat the dreams that guided you are no longer the motivation...instead its the new sights and sounds you experience...and the spontaneous decisions that you take...to take a break...to explore a new road where none exists... sometimesfor the sheer challenge of seeing if you have it in you...to toss aside an almost perfect omelette and start again...and enjoy the pleasure of searching for a new egg....

That's life !!!

P.S: I firmly believe omelettes are God's gift to mankind :P

Transition

Symptoms

1. Your eyes gleam when you see a new dishwash liquid on the supermarket shelf. The gleam and the subsequent surge of hope in your heart is identical to those experienced once upon a time on seeing a new fairness cream.

2. You start liking your vegetables based on the ease of cleaning, cutting and cooking time the same way you used to once choose your favorite subjects based on ease of understanding, learning and scoring.

3. You choose clothes to wear not based on their ability to impress but the ease to 'press' .

Diagnosis: You have successfully transitioned from a girl to a woman :P

Isn't It a Wonder...

...that people who are totally against an arranged marriage "'cos you can't judge a person in 10 minutes" are quite willing to take up a job after just a 10 minute interview "'cos the salary seems right!!"

Weirdos !!!

One thing that I have been blessed with in life are friends who are absolute weirdos !!! Who never cease to amaze me by their extremely predictable weird ways which never cease to surprise ...yea, I know that's quite oxymoronic...predictable surprises...but my weirdo friends also happen to be brilliant and creative and hence no match for my wits !!! (Well, I even have a friend who keeps reminding me that his singular purpose of existence is to raise my intellectual levels to match his')

So this post is dedicated to all these wonderful people who have nothing better to do with their corporate paid time than log on to Gmail and chat away to glory....True to their eccentricities, they will always have their status set to busy, so that they can respond to a "Busy?" from my side with a "Not for you, dear" always !!! And I know for a fact that this response goes to anyone who cares to ask them the question :P

Well, to be fair to them, they usually never start a con…

Evolution

Had a hilarious day at my work place....Happened two days back...was laughing continuously till now...currently it has reduced to occasional bursts...people around me are thinking I'm having a facial spasm...seeing my contorted expression of suppressed grin...anyway now I am steady enough to put pen to paper ...rather, finger to keyboard..so decided to record the event for posterity...

Discussion of a lowly species (as low in the eco-system as you can imagine...) on dreams of spontaneous evolution (jus to ensure survival) with the scientist doing the experiments... (hereinafter fondly called PM...no, no, me not in IT industry...)Scientist acts according to what is suitable to her...Still, hope is universal...so the lowly species (hereinafter LS) tries...

PM: So what are your expectations?
LS: What about a paid European Tour?
PM: *growls*
LS (duly chastened): What about paid weekend trips to hometown?
PM: Tell you what, significant experiments on evolution happen over weekends, you can&#…

Yet Again !!!

Here is a conversation that happened on my yet-another-torture-trip to meet 'friends and family'...this time in the name of the Lord !!! Yes, the setting was a Pooja organized by my hubby's relations and since I didn't want to offend the Gods above and the realtives below and hubby didn't want to miss the excellent food, we dragged ourselves there...with a friendly advice from hubby to "have a sense of humour"....So here goes my humorous encounter with the inevitable question-answer session.... Q: Oh, u've really lost weight !!
A: Oh, you've really lost ur sight :)
Q: When are you shifting back?
A: As soon as you shift to my town, i'll shift to yours
Q: Isn't it quite expensive to fly down every weekend?
A: Yea, so when are you starting a cheaper airline?
Q: So do you have someone to help you with the cooking and cleaning?
A: No, the post is still vacant....and you are free to apply
By now, I was quite ready for another round, but needless to say…

A Weary Traveller...

...well, that's what I am today...Yet another instance of shrewd manipulation by 'smart' souls in my firm, has left me gropping in the dark...and forced me into a major introspection exercise...And verify what went wrong...I have realised to my horror that its my value system...there are a few things that I very strongly believe in....honesty, being helpful, sharing knowledge, and most importantly not stepping over someone to reach my goals....

And at various points in time, I have been confronted by people who say "You should learn to operate smartly, you need to do this to be successful"....somehow, this world associates smartness with being crooked and manipulative...these people spend more time trying to 'push down' others rather than pull themselves up...and I used to vehemently deny what these people say, relentlessly hold on to what I believed in and work twice as hard to prove myself...I used to uphold my own success as an example that success need…

Being Grateful...

There are people who enter our life for a brief period and cause profound changes....I have often wondered how to express my gratitude for these noble souls...yea, I am talking about teachers...the extremely dedicated ones...who take the responsibility of shaping out beautiful individuals out of raw potential...much like a sculptor who shapes clay into an adorable statue...

I mean, I have visited them in later life, said "Thank You" in so many words, even tried to put to practice what I have learnt from them...well, not chemical equations or physics formulae but things more profound...a word of inspiration when someone is unsure of him/herself, a proud smile that shares the happiness of another's success, a patient ear for a sad saga ...all of this and more...

But still, somewhere there is a void...a voice in my heart which says I am not being grateful enough...that I haven't communicated my appreciation and gratefulness sufficiently...

I wish there is someway hearts co…

A little bit ....

A little bit of care, A lil' bit of understanding, That's all I ask....
Not 'cos I can't handle it alone...
I am capable and smart, Intelligent and rational... But a little bit of my irrationality, A lil' bit of my madness, That's all I ask....
'Cos I am nought without them...
A slice of the blue sky, A fragment of my dreams, That's all I ask...

Questions !!!

These days I am home, enjoying a much needed break from work. The luxury is nearing an end as I am at the fag end of my week long holiday. I had a great time, except for two questions which invariably popped up whenever I met anyone....the universal nature of these questions really shocked me...across caste,age,SEC levels and whatever other divisional parameter one can think of....anyone and everyone had to throw these questions at me...even friends whom I thought was above this nonsense... So what were these questions?

1. When are you shifting permanently to your hometown? (Origin of question: Me and hubby are presently in two different cities at an average distance of Rs2000 one way by Air Deccan)

2. When are you planning to have kids?

What irritates me more is, no one asks my hubby whether he wishes to shift to my base location, instead of me joining him !!! and the latter question is never addressed at him though both parties I guess contribute equally to the process....

Well, the onl…

Childhood - Bitter Sweet

Here goes...my first tag !!! On something that I've always wanted to write, but always shied away from...childhood. I was tagged by the smart, confident and eternally optimistic HR executive - bombaydosti
Rules :
1. Write 8-10 things about childhood that you miss.
2. Write 8-10 things that you disliked about childhood.
3. Tag a few people.
"childhood is 1-12 years " - Silverine, proprietor. Well, I shall extend it to 18, 'cos till I entered college, I never felt like I was an adult.

If ever I want to go back to childhood, it's cos:

1. I was the youngest and the most pampered in the family - from my grandmother to my sister, who is elder to me jus by two years but yet pampered me silly by giving way to all my wishes. As I grew up, roles got reversed - today I am expected to pamper new entrants in my life -- not something I enjoy.

2. Pocket money - Used to get jus 20 bucks from my grandma, but it was quite a lot then. And more than the money, it was the feeling of getting…

My Pet Peeves

It's been a long time...reason: people have been irritating me left, right and centre. Ok, make that politically correct: I was unreasonable enough to let all and sundry to get on my nerves...including a painstakingly typed post which vanished when i tried to publish it...I know, I know, "it happens"...Anyway, here is a list of my pet peeves, well, make that stronger... these are things I hate....truth is, if the law of the land didn't prevent it, I would have shot the offenders(yes, I know, "hate the sin, not the sinner", but still each of us have our own secret fantasies, right?) So without much further ado, here goes the list....

1. People without civic sense:- This group primarily consists of a variety of nasty neighbours ranging from those who play loud music at the dead of the nite (yea, I enjoy music too, but 1:00 PM in the nite is a bit late for it !!) to those who encroach onto your front yard, the moment you are out of town, to hang their dirty lin…

My True Love...

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Or so it seems :) I usually don't fall for these kind of things....but couldn't resist putting this up !!!Your True Love Is a CancerWhy you'll love a Cancer:
Cancer's loyal and sincere heart makes your own sensitive heart melt.Caring and devoted, a Cancer will take the lead in pursuing you - and not give up!
Why a Cancer will love you:
You're laid back enough to deal with Cancer's little mood swings and freak-outs.A fellow homebody, you know how to make a Cancer comfortable and at home with you.

Doctors

A spouse who is left behind in the middle of a waltz without a partner...a baby whose lullaby was never sung....

Whenever you thank a doctor for being there for you and later fondly remember how he/she helped you or your loved ones are these people ever remembered? These happen to be the doc's family...who get left behind when the doc jumps out of bed in the middle of the night to answer an emergency call...who sacrifice the smile from life's precious moments so that the doc can put it on his/her patients' faces...

Life's Little Pleasures

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I experienced one such moment when I saw these....


....these are Neela Kurunjis which bloom once in twelve years, in the Western Ghats. Thanks to everyone who made the visit possible.

Corporate Weirdos - Part 4

Recently sighted a species in the corporate jungle whom I shall name the 'Child Adult' (CA). The distinguishing character of a CA is extremely childish behaviour in very adult like situations. They have an excessive attention seeking disorder too. Whether it be in office, in meetings or in corporate parties these CAs indulge in childish squeaks, moans and pranks to draw attention to themselves. In office, they usually hover around the boss's desk with no specific purpose than to waste their time, the boss's time and everytime else's time. They are the ones to whimper to the boss that seniors are being insensitive. (Its another matter that their expectations of sensitive behaviour exceed that of a child from a mother. Being sensitive to a CA means not getting frustrated about their screw-ups in work despite accepting all their pranks with a smile, and even accompanying them for lunch as soon as they are hungry and no, they won't go alone as "I don't lik…

Where Should I Be?

These days my school mail group which is otherwise mostly dead is seeing a flurry of activity...the topic of debate is whether one should be in America or India...A majority of my classmates are in US (hailed as the land of opportunities by the most recent addition there and as the land of homesickness by one of the earlier migrants)

This weekend when I was back in my hometown, I met two of my classmates who were on vacation from US... both of them seem to be quite happy in America, so much so that when we (hubby and self) asked them when (and whether) they were planning to come bac to India they didn't even have to blink an eyelid before saying not anytime in the near future...and in the next breath they also added that they wud love to return bac at a later date...And that set me thinking...And I ended up jumping into the mail war in my e-groups with my take on the issue...Felt like reproducing the excerpts of that mail here ...

Good to see the serves and volleys going bac and fo…

Food for Thought

In life, if you manage to do what you want, without giving a damn about other people, is it a sign of supreme self-confidence ("I am confident about my beliefs and actions, hence i'm not bothered about others")or is it a sign of absolute self-centeredness?("I'll do what I want, even if I have to hurt you in the process")

P.S Thought occured when a colleague remarked over dinner that if she could do whatever she wanted without thinking of others around her, she would consider it her greatest success, especially since she is a woman. And rebellious me just couldn't agree :P

Vouching for the Underdog..

...it comes naturally to me. The underdog need not necessarily represent principles I stand for in life...If I see, someone being hammered down by a vociferous group, I would somehow manage to identify an argument in his/her favour although I might be in total disagreement with the idea...I always knew I was like this ever since childhood, when I would support a classmate being scolded by the teacher and derided by the rest of the class or when I would support a teacher whom the rest of the class hates...I have managed to carry forward that trait all through to my adulthood ...But I never realised how strongly I support the underdog until recently when I started blog-hopping regularly...I often have this tremendous urge to leave a comment opposing whatever idea is being talked about..especially if the comments section is full of "yea i agree with you"...And b'cos I don't want to be teared apart for being the lone voice I usually return without commenting...unless its…

Serene Aquasserenne...

...is a beautiful resort about 80 kms from my home town. Went there early morning on Day 1 and returned early morning on Day 2. There was nothing to do there and that's what made it interesting...you just soak urselves in nature and relax... The food was on the house but was nothing great...my major disappointment was the absence of fish fry...I couldn't fathom how despite being in the middle of a backwater there were no fish specialities on offer :(.... But the shutterbug in me was thrilled thanks to the perfect combo of nature's and man's brilliance (the former manifested itself in the form of a kind sun and the latter in the form of a Canon E20D digital SLR camera) And the best part of it was to get my hubby all to myself for a full 24 hours without the familiar and unavoidable demands on his time ranging from the mundane (like holding the dogs when a visitor drops by) to the exciting (like answering urgent patient calls).

Frozen Tears

Often in life, when you actually feel like crying your lungs out, you end up sporting a grand smile... with a lump in your throat and a knot in your heart which even loved ones don't notice....I wonder whether these frozen tears are a sign of success ("I am the master of my emotions") or of utter failure ("I don't even have the freedom to express my emotions")....

Choices

Life is full of them. ..big, small, important, trivial, life altering, forgotten-the-next moment, or sometimes even so very obvious ones that you don't even consider it as a choice but more as a default next step. But the unpredictability of the future makes choices quite exciting. I mean so many times in hindsight a choice that I have made with apprehension had turned out to be the right one and vice versa. And different people use different ways to finalise on a choice - sometimes the brain decides, sometimes the heart does and sometimes both (and ofcourse there are times when the choices are quite spontaneous and hence neither brain nor heart contributes to the choice :P). And the best part (or worst depending on whether you are an optimist or pessimist) is that you never know what lies at the end of the road not taken .... So why am I suddenly analysing so much? Well, I am at crossroads and don't know which choice to make :(

A Perfect Bird

To you, I flew with smouldering wings...
Alas! you never gave me a chance,
Clipped my wings and caged me;
Dressed me up and paraded me.

The crowd enjoyed the sight -
The fiery red of freedom bled
And the soulful melodies sung.

Still, my love, I sacrifice my spirit
In the altar of thy vanity!
Jus so that you get to hear
"Wow, you've got a perfect bird here!!!"

Independence

We, as a nation celebrated Independence Day yesterday. But it didn't mean anything to me as a person. Well, before you take your patriotic guns to shoot me, let me explain...I am extremely proud to be an Indian and extremely happy with regard to all the privileges of living in a free nation. But perhaps because I've always lived in a free nation, and can't imagine it to be any other way, I do not associate any particular significance to that particular day. It was just another boring holiday, and a sad one too as my family which came to visit me over the extended weekend went off leaving me feeling totally stupid and irritable. And today, I am somehow still quite bugged at everything in general and nothing in particular... And thus wondered what does being independent and free mean to me? Personal independence and freedom encompasses a whole lot of things....ranges from the silly to the profound...from being able to have time for myself to solve a crossword puzzle to being …

Being Vulnerable...

...that's a major side effect of being married. I have heard a lot of people say that motherhood makes you vulnerable...But now I've realized that marriage has the same effect, may be to a lesser degree. Your thoughts, actions and reactions are all vulnerable to the hopes, dreams, aspirations, pleasures and pain of your loved one...especially pain. It jus incapacitates you - the very thought that your loved one might be in pain. And that makes you act in funny ways - like asking the doctor a hundred times and then once more "Is everything ok with him/her?" , then trying to pamper your loved one to the point of irritation, then getting irritated at yourselves for not being able to do something more useful and sensible to handle the situation better and finally just thanking GOD - for keeping your loved one with you... for not snatching him away...

When I Die...

I shall meet you on the beaches, mate,
Where the passionate waves of love
Thrash relentlessly against sand grains of hate.
Where time and space hold no meaning
We shall reach out to each other....

We've met many eclipses before,
On this very shore !!!

But we shall venture beyond...
Not stop and turn back like before,
Burnt by the scorching heat of hatred.

We shall move forward hand in hand
And let the water douse the fire

Like kids, in miracles we shall believe,
And walk over the oceans
In search of rainbows and magic potions!

Will You See Me Tonite?

...Or tomorrow morning, or the next day evening or whenever you try , will you be able to see me?Not if you are in India...'cos the Indian government has ordered internet service providers to block access to all blogspot sites and few other blogs too....As someone who has not even had parental curfews in childhood, I just abhor this....Why should someone else dictate what you or I do?Especially when it is as harmless as expressing my opinion...I am not curbing anyone's freedom by doing it...so why is the government curbing mine?I do not know.... Initially, as most other bloggers, even I thought probably my office network administrator just got stricter, then I tried from home..and no luck...asked friends...still no luck...but never in my wildest dreams did I imagine it was the government's handiwork....until I heard it in the news!!! But the sad part is it's been quite some days now, and still despite a lot of hue and cry within the blog world and some in mainstream medi…

"Gals, Oceans and Alcohol...

...that's GOA for you". Well, it had always been one of my dream destinations...kept enticing me since college days...but ultimately when I managed to finally go there last week, she disappointed me...rather I disappointed myself. Had gone on an official getaway...which means you are put up in a 5 star beach resort but your freedom is totally curbed. What you eat (special menu designed for your cost-conscious firm), what you listen to (boring corporate gyaan), what you play (team building games, supposedly) and even what you wear (the omni-present corporate T-shirt) is dictated by someone else...Others enjoyed, as the booze was on the house...and the opportunities for team-building exercises (?) were aplenty on the dance floor(as these increase in direct proportion to the alcohol content in your blood)....I realised the corporate dance floor is hardly any different from a college dance floor...the drunken dramas are all the same... I was thoroughly bored...the only consolation …

Reversal of Roles

Act 1 Scene 1

Outside my workplace. Evening. Autostand with about 10 autos. Auto drivers huddled together in one corner, either gossiping or smoking. Standing near them is a scattered group of haggard people (mostly women), with one shoulder tilted to a side (thanks to 'neighbour's envy, owner's misery' - a first generation laptop). Enter one more addition to the group above (description - same as above). Auto drivers are oblivious to the new entrant's presence. She approaches them with hope writ across her face and asks ever so politely... "xyzpura??" Leader of Auto drivers : Where in xyzpura ? Heroine : Near Anand Fish Stall Auto driver shrugs his shoulder which thanks to prior similar experiences is correctly interpreted as "no, we are not interested in taking you there". But heroine persists " It's in the main road". Auto Driver: "We won't get a return (passenger) from there". Heroine pleads: "I'll give you ten ru…

Unconditional Love...

... is a concept that has fascinated me since I first heard about it...that was several years back when one day my mom reassured me that no matter how naughty I am or how weird I looked she still loved me... Over the years I have moved from longing for that elusive knight in shining armour who would epitomize unconditional love to vociferously defending the fact that there is no such thing as unconditional love... Steps in between this transition involved: - Being spiritual and reading yogic text books that preach how God's love for mankind is the only form of unconditional love. My fascination with the concept ended when it started advising on how you should love everyone alike. (i.e. without placing any conditions for choosing your object of affection) After all, I am no angel and even if I don't manage to extract an eye for an eye always, I never go back on my desire to do so...Forgiving and letting be is not exactly my strong area!! - Thinking that romantic love is true and p…

Aesop's Fable - With a Twist

I am sure all of you out there would have read the famed Aesop fable about a father and son trying to travel with a donkey and how the whole show got spoiled by advice from all and sundry...And well, for those of you who haven't read it during childhood, someone or the other would have recounted the story to you at a very frustrating moment in life and given advice (unsolicited, ofcourse) on why you should never go by someone else's advice....(by then, you would have made a royal mess of things and the gleeful look of superiority on the storyteller-advisor's face is the last thing you want to see!!)

I was reminded of this fable recently when I launched into an easy and fairly quick step(or so, I thought) of changing my profile picture in orkut! It originated with an innocent wish on my part to give myself a fresh look in orkut. I thought I had the freedom to portray the way I look especially if it is not offending anyone's religious/moral/ethical sentiments...But I soon…

Adventures - Of a Different Kind

These days I am experiencing an adventure of a different kind. The less imaginative among us call it cooking !!!

The whole process starts off with a very complex decision making exercice - what do I cook today? This decision is complicated by the innumerable dependencies that needs to be considered before reaching an optimal solution, such as how much time do I have, what vegetables are available (and ofcourse, which of these will last just one day and hence have to be definitely included in the day's menu).

The next step is cutting the vegetables. Here the villian is onions, which form an integral part of most recipes ! Once upon a time, in the not so distant past, onions were one of my favorites, but have since quickly fallen out of favour, keeping in line with "anyone who makes you cry is not worth the effort, however nice they might otherwise be" Advice from pros in the field ranged from wrapping a towel around my nose to cutting the onions after placing them under wat…

Malaysia...Truly Truly Asia !!!

My honeymoon was in Malaysia !!! Thoroughly enjoyed myself....went to Langawi islands ,Genting Highlands, KL and Terranganu. The last one was to visit my aunt who is stationed there. There is nothing much else to that place. Fond memories from the other 3 places were: 1. I went parasailing and jet skiing. I am not really the adventurous and sporty types...but these activities really boosted my confidence...thnks hubby, for encouraging me!! 2. The sea in Langawi was as quiet as a sleeping baby. After being used to the passionate Arabian Sea in my hometown, this was initially a disappointment. However, this helped me to learn swimming and thus my hubby kept a promise made years back to teach me swimming! 3. In Genting, I realised I still haven't fully overcome my fear of adventure rides and chickened out from two of them at the last moment. My hubby celebrated the trip by promptly paying a fortune to purchase a snap of us travelling in a roller coaster where I am screaming my lungs out…

My Best Friend's Wedding

I was away on vacation to attend my best friend's wedding. That was the reason for this reasonably long silence. It was one of the happiest moments in my life. Have known him for almost ten years now...It was great to see him sit on the mandap waiting patiently for the bride to arrive. (I couldn't help smiling to myself, as he finds it extremely difficult to sit cross legged but not only was he doing it then, he was doing it with a smile!). Our common close friends from school days were present...so were teachers...was amazing to meet up with all of them... All his relatives were present at his place almost a week before his wedding...so though I reached my home quite a few days earlier, I couldn't really talk to him until the day of the wedding...as he was busy hosting parties at his place for family and friends. And they were all pitching in to make it a memorable event for him - one relative helped him shop for his clothes, another family friend was in charge of the kitc…

Seeing the World in a Different Light

I am a person who usually always sees everything as either black or white. To me shades of grey are difficult to comprehend. At least, that was the case till yesterday. But from now on I shall see the world in a different light. I have started appreciating the shades of grey. This intense philosophical transformation happened about four hours back....when I bought my first pair of sunglasses...I wore them...and lo and behold I could appreciate the grey all around me...:P

I Drove a Gearless Car

Yes !!! And it was wonderful...I cruised through the maddening traffic in my city without any hitches. In fact, I was clearly pleased with myself on how I could manage to drive so effortlessly without knowing even the A,B,C of driving. (Well, literally Accelerator, Brake and Clutch). I just had to keep turning the steering wheel just as you see in those amazing video games. And this was no virtual reality...So, wondering how I managed? And which car I drove?
Well, I was taking my first driving lesson in a Santro ...:P

Why the hell...

...can't people understand something the first time you say it? No, I am not talking about communication gaps here. On the contrary, this happens when the person perfectly understands what you are trying to convey, but just refuses to acknowledge it.
For me, this is the perfect recipe for frustration. And it happens so very often..and in all aspects of life. Instances from work include juniors who don't work as told, peers who can't appreciate a good idea the first time and managers who can't give an answer or approve an expense when you submit the claims. There is no lack of capability or time in any of these cases. The work gets done the moment you start increasing the pressure, the idea gets accepted after half an hour of explanations which your peers are jolly well aware of in the first place and the answers and approvals come after enough time is spent on 'gentle' and 'not so gentle' reminders.

Instances from personal life are also abundant - house …

Misplaced Trust...

... is a mutant of trust. .. a monstrous mutant. The most common result of misplaced trust is that you end up with burnt fingers... but that happens when the person whom you've trusted cheats you directly and you get to know of it. However, there is an indirect, and more harmful effect that misplaced trust can have. This is when your misplaced trust in a person (let's call him/her P - why P? 'cos I feel A,B,C and X,Y,Z have got enough limelight :P)) causes agony and anguish to others.

This occurs when P starts terrorizing those around you. And P derives the strength for this, from your trust on him/her. Works like this : P knows the extent of your trust, and so feels confident that you won't believe what other might tell you about his/her misdeeds. And what's worse, the victim also feels the same way and so never even bothers to tell you the incidents about which you are happily unaware of...until one fine day, the victim channels all the suppressed frustration and…

Racing Away in the Fastest Vehicle

Just back from an exhillarating trip...Met my room mate from B-school days...I couldn't attend her wedding and was feeling really bad about it. (But then again, who asked her to go get married in scenic but remote Kashmir of all places ? )Spoke at length. Exchanged notes. Felt great!!

Also met a lot of friends from school days. Who considered me their best friend. Among whom, the one I particularly enjoyed meeting was this classmate who had started crying when our teacher decided to change our places and put me in a seat far away from her. (happened yrs ago, but I still remember it 'cos till the moment she started crying, I had never realised she considered me worth crying for !!!)

And even teachers, whom I hadn't met in a loong loong time. ..who considered me their pet and favorite student...as I was the perfect combo of naughtiness and good grades...The kind a teacher always loves to lovingly rebuke...

I also visited 'Valley of Flowers' and few other places...

And I…

Hats Off To You...

...yes, hats off to you my boss !!! Whenever I crib about my workplace either here or to friends/family/loved ones/not-so-loved ones there is invariably one response (the motives behind the response, ofcourse, are vastly different) - "Why don't you shift your job?" I have answered this question in different ways ...mostly framing my answer to suit what the other person expects to hear. However, the heartfelt truth is ...I continue to be where I am 'cos of my boss. I have learnt (and continue to do so) a lot of things from him. He is less than 30 and is hugely successful in his professional life. But what I like best about him is the individual that he is...kind,caring and honest. He continues to inspire not jus me but our entire team. I have seen people stay late in office to finish a job, just 'cos it's for him. And no, it's not blind boss worship... He often says "If an assignment goes wrong, I take the brickbats, if it goes right, my team gets the …

I was Raped...

...intellectually. Happened yesterday in my workplace. My team was discussing with the so-called 'subject matter expert' (rather the expert was giving us gyaan). The topic was US regulations with regard to outsourcing. And the expert made a factual blunder. I tried correcting it - politely. And he barked at me- rudely. I felt violated..felt like I was being raped. The whole incident was over in less than two minutes.

However, the anguish it caused was made unbearable by my teammates who were mute spectators to the show, who didn't have the intellectual spine ('knowledge') to stand up for me. And even worse, they asked me to keep quiet - not to fight back.
I screamed - silently...

Realisations

Well, still haven't gotten over the hangover of that wonderful vacation I had, so this post is about some of the realisations that dawned on me during the trip. You know, I was always a believer of this concept that taking a vacation and travelling gives you deep insights into your soul. Well, nothing of the sort happened to me, however funnily enough I did realise certain things.

The trip was totally unplanned and we were about 30 minutes from Coorg and still didn't have a place to stay for the night. I browsed through the Outlook Weekend Getaways, and thought homestay would be a cool option as I can be intimate with nature and have first hand experience of the land and so on. So, we zeroed in on a place which seemed promising and landed there at the dead of the night (Well it was just past 8.30, but still it was pitch dark).

We were greeted by a lady who turned out to be a painter (I was meeting a live one for the first time in my life !!) and she showed us around a house whic…

Coffee Vs Tea

Had been on vacation for the past 10 days.So my next few posts are gonna be on that amazing vacation I had. Been to Coorg.It was a much dreamt about vacation. But when reality struck it was slightly different...I had expected a scenic and cold hill station like Munnar In my mind I had jus replaced tea plantations with coffee. (Though the fact of the matter is I have never seen a coffee plant before in my life, I somehow had managed to paint a coffee plant in my imagination like a tea plant with some coffee beans hanging ....)But as I reached there, I realised that tea is different from coffee as much as chalk is from cheese (cliche, I know).
For starters, Coorg was hot and humid (well, not as much as coastal Trivandrum or Cochin, but you see I am comparing it with Munnar!!). And then the coffee plantations were a far cry from tea plantations. Coffee grows in a jungle, in between so many other stuff and apparently at this time of the year coffee just about starts flowering, so the plant…

Procrastination...

...is one of the biggest vices of mankind, including me. Everyday, there are multiple things that I want to do, but keep aside while mumbling to myself "Not today". Not b'cos there is a lack of resources of any kind, including time,talent and money. But b'cos I want to put it aside...as plain and simple as that...Ample amount of analysis and self introspection failed to identify the root cause. In some cases, yes these were things I detested doing. But what about putting aside the following?
- Calling up my best friend whom I badly want to speak to (no it's not as if I've lost touch and am ashamed to get back in touch)
- Watching that movie which I've always wanted to
- Going to that one restaurant that's always caught my curiosity
What's that elusive answer? Or am I trying to complicate what normal people (including my dad) call "LAZINESS".

PS: Whatever is that answer that I'm in search of, is the reason for the gap between my last post …

Burning The Bridges

"Don't burn your bridges behind you" ...that's the advice from seers of the corporate world.

My tongue-in-cheek retort: "What if I always walk on level ground?Maybe since the world is round, I might end up in the same place again. But the landscape would have changed, making it as exciting as a brand new place, right? :P"

The Power of Thoughts

So many people have written about it, but still very few of us put it to practice. And even fewer of us put it to practice consistently. I am referring to "If you really really want something then you will definitely get it". And I know its true. Everytime I have really really wanted something, I have always got it. Starting from small things like 'movie tickets for first day first show of a blockbuster' to big ones like my soulmate. But the point is I am not able to do it consistently. More often than not, I get bogged down by negative thoughts. And even a small negative thought can contribute significantly against realising your dreams. Still even after knowing all this, at times I let myself be dragged into abysmal amounts of self pity. That set me thinking... Mostly, these negative thoughts come from prior negative experiences. And analysing backwards, these negative experiences happened 'cos of negative thoughts. Going backwards still further, I've realis…

Success in the Corporate World..

...has increasingly come to mean how successfully you manage to get hold of all the information from your colleagues while revealing as little as possible.

And I met them again...

.....on the blogger highway. Yea, I am talking about all those people who have entered my life at various points and then left leaving behind an indelible footprint. I found them again in cyberspace primarily through blogs and through orkut , both of which have fairly replaced IMs like yahoo and msn. Especially since most office networks have blocked IMs and most of the people I am referring to spend all their waking hours (and some sleeping hrs too) in office, I now look for long lost fellow hitchhikers (for want of a better term, since all of them are not friends) primarily in blog sites and orkut. The major advantage of blogs is that you can get to know what is happening in the other person's life without re-entering their lives...I mean, you can quickly stop by, read what's happening and move on, without so much as even leaving a comment...And as a friend mentioned here, you can do the same with orkut too, if you want to.

PS: This post was inspired by the blogs of people wh…

Weekend Blues

I thought about writing "Corporate Weirdos - Part 3 " and even saved the title in draft mode about 2 days back. The plan was to write about a highly evolved & mutated version of of the more commonly found 'Work Shirker'. I had got flash sightings of this species in the corporate jungle that I am part of, about 2 days back when I saved the title in the draft mode. However, I forgot to map the key characteristics in my mind's camera and now it's gone. And the more generic species has enough written about it, so I don't want to add my two pence. Whenever the next sighting of this species occurs, I shall update you about the same.

But today, I am gonna write about "Weekend Blues" .Yea, you read that right...Not "Monday Morning Blues", but on the contrary "Weekend Blues".
Definition of "Weekend Blues" from Tinker Bells Dictionary of Terms "You have been working for 12-16 hours from Monday to Friday and your univer…