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Random Thoughts...

These days I think a lot about ....

- Peace vs. Convictions
- Independence vs. Affection
- Joy vs. Duty
- Dreams vs. Love


Tough Choices !!!

In Retrospect...

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...the year that 's breathing its last was like any other year to me - a mixed bag. But, today I just want to look back and feel good about all the things that went right for me...So here goes...Rather, before I proceed this is a purely selfish exercise in vanity expected to boost my own morale...so whoever doesn't like the sound of blowing trumpets, please save yourselves...
1. We got a worldspace connection and a bose music system ...Made the music lover in me happy....
2. Went to Japan and Wayanad and several smaller weekend trips - my travel dreams were satiated - all the trips were really amazing ...
3. I got myself a Canon IXUS 910 ...suits my need for a shoot and click camera quite well
4. The first rose in my garden bloomed...I started with an empty pot and a shovel, and I am not really blessed with a green thumb, and so I was thrilled to bits when I actually saw it...
5. I got to spend more time with my nephew who is an adorable 3 yr old bundle of pure fun !
6. Read a…

Is my blog dying?

That's something that I worry about these days a lot...no, I am not suffering from any creative block...on the contrary my mind is bubbling with ideas...unfortunately my office has decided to conserve bandwidth and block blogger :( .....and I am at my creative best at office....after spending close to 15 hrs a day in front of a computer, there is no way I can take time out at home to post stuff....I wonder how to solve this dilemma.....

I wonder

When dreams are burning, will tears act as a fire extinguisher?

Work-Life Balance

The other day I was chatting with a colleague of mine and he said that it was unfair to expect women to stay back late to finish off work. I said I don't subscribe to the views since if both men and women are paid equally then they are expected to share the burden equally as well. To which he responded "maybe, but then family suffers" ...I didn't agree to this logic too...
My take on the issue can be roughly summarised as follows:

There are enough variety of jobs that are available in the market. Some are high in demand in terms of time, others in terms of mental effort and still others in terms of physical effort. There are also other jobs available which are more relaxed, but obviously with a corresponding lower pay packet. It is up to the individual to choose what lifestyle he prefers.

Very often, I have seen women crying hoarse saying that their work place is not women-friendly. I have seen these very women neglect policies like 'work half hours for half pay'…

Anonymously Yours....

This post has been long overdue...Had been wanting to write about this one for maybe about 2-3 months now...But never got around to it...Yes this post is about anonymity in the blog world....

There are a lot of people out there who scorn at anonymous comments ! They have even gone to the extent of disabling them...Others like me enable comment filtering...That's another way of keeping anonymous comments at bay...or maybe , like in my case, to prevent spamming ! After all, I don't want my personal space in blog world to be someone else's ad campaign...Its more like a 'Stick No Bills' in front of my compound wall....

But, coming back to the topic...why is anonymous comments looked down upon? The world wide web is a virtual place meant for virtual identities....Atleast that's my take on it...You are being too naive if you think that having an e-mail id lends credibility to your opinions...

I, for one, have a pseudo name, but that's not to hide my identity...It…

Corporate Weirdos - Part 6

Yes, I'm doing this series after a long time. But, today I'm not gonna talk about 'weirdos' in the strict sense of the term. This is a practical problem faced by all organizations (well, almost all)...It is the lack of support from the 'support' teams in the firm....Many, have written humorous and not so humorous accounts of difficulties faced from HR, Network team, Finance Desk and Travel Desk...

I have been subject to very rude treatment from my support teams the past two days, despite me trying to pamper their egos infinitely...and that made me wonder why? My answer lies here:

1. Under paid and over worked: Most often they compare salaries with people in the line functions and feel that they are being under paid and over worked...The feeling that they are doing a thankless job adds to their frustrations...The end result is they never lose a chance to test the patience of the 'better-offs'...

2. Lack of training: While these teams are busy organising and…

Wild Wayanad...

..that's where I was, two weeks back. And I was thoroughly smitten...Atleast if there is a heaven, I'd pretty much like it to be as pristine and wild (oxymoronic???) as Wayanad...I have never been to any other place where I could see deers on the roadside ... It was rainy season and the 'wise' elders realised that warnings of danger are not gonna make us change plans. They then resorted to teasing about "oh, you guys going for monsoon tourism , eh?" (the hidden innuendos of 'water kindling fire' very much in place) ...

We ofcourse ended up missing the 'Meenmutty Falls' and the 'Chembra Peak'...But there was still plenty to see around...and actually relax...the air I'm sure had more oxygen content or whatever ingredient that makes a human being happy...

Unlike the upteen school excursions to Thekkady, where one is lucky to see atleast an elephant, we actually saw wild boars, elephants, peacocks and even a wild hen....

The only grouch m…

Life's Like That - 7

Lady and hubby in a scenic locale - a hill top with waterfall gurgling near by surrounded by evergreen forests....

Both quietly enjoying the feeling of being one with nature...

Suddenly lady says "I can't tell you how happy and contented I feel now...Seems like I can hear the heart beat of Mother Nature ...Maybe in my last janam I must have been a great sanyasi ..."

Hubby turns around, takes a good sharp look at lady and after a pregnant pause wisely responds "...or maybe a monkey !!!"

P.S. We were in Wayanad last weekend....Details of trip and snaps in the next post.

Small Town Blues

This post is inspired by two events that happened in close succession...Two days back - friend from blog world says he loves my city 'cos he's studied here for five years. Today - friend from real world says he fell in love with my city during the very first visit, reason being he was bowled over by the greenery... So I decided to take a good sharp look around to see what I find lacking in a city where I grew up and have now returned to after almost five years ... Maybe, I am taking the luxuries for granted??? Well, sadly even after close to 24 hours of deep thought, I still haven't come up with a lot of luxuries that the place offers ! 1. Greenery : Yes, the city is green...green beyond the wildest imagination of someone who has never been here before. And that can charm a tourist...but in day to day life, will you rather choose between a) Shops open late nite so that you can shop for essentials after work OR a star lit sky ('cos there is no pollution) ? b) Monsoon rains …

Life's Like That - 6

Hubby's work environment is heavily skewed to the opposite gender. As heavily skewed as it gets when you are the only male in the entire department of 77 people (colleagues, professors and staff) , not to mention an all female clientele. Hubby is not too pleased with the situation - his pet peeves start from no opportunities for male bonding (whatever that means) and ends with a paranoia of whether he will end up behaving like girls (again, whatever that means !)

One day Lady is good naturedly pulling hubby's leg on the topic....
"Lucky you...soo many women and just one you...". Hubby gives a disapproving look...Lady continues "You must be having your time of a lifetime - all women swooning all over you..." At which point hubby is really peeved and mutters seriously " Yea, who do you think I am ? Kamadhenu ???"
It took a moment for lady to realise what hubby meant.... And then of course there was no stopping her laughter...

P.S For the uninitiated: K…

Slavery of the Mind

If the question is "Will you trade your mind with Satan in return for eternal happiness?" , most of us without blinking an eyelid will say "Nooo".
But if the question is "Will you trade your mind with God in return for eternal happiness?" , then why should the answer be any different?
Afterall, in both cases you are enslaving your mind, right? Before you jump into conclusions, let me clarify a few things - this post is NOT one of those eternal does God exist/ should I believe in God debate. I am NOT an atheist. I also know that different people believe in God differently and to different degrees and no one way is better than another.. And I am talking here about people who have the resources to think for themselves. By which I mean, they have the economic and intellectual freedom to be masters of their mind - if only they choose to. And that is what this post is all about - it is about the choice one makes...and as liberal minded as I would like to think of …

Oxymoronic...

Why is it...

1. ...that we shop in huge malls and then step into their coffee shops to discuss "why huge retail chains should be banned to protect the smaller players" ?

2. ...that we think of ourselves as liberated, open-minded and tolerant individuals and then go ahead and promptly call others fundamentalists ?

3. ...that the most opinionated Indians with regard to the Kashmir issue have not only never been there, but haven't even spoken in person to anyone who has anything remotely at stake in the issue ? (this can be extended to all civil unrests and political dilemmas with a very murky and long-winded history anywhere in the world...if there is plenty of media statistics that can be interpreted in all ways possible, then all the more better)

4. ...that we promptly write a blog about friendship on friendship's day, India on Aug 15th, mom on mother's day, dad on dad's day , dog on dog's day (after all every dog has his day) and then go ahead and write yet …

Ocean of Grief

Ocean of grief, swallow me...
How long shall I stand and watch
Your powerful waves hitting my numb soul ?

Salt - hurts my open wounds
And blurs my vision of happy tomorrows

I can't seem to turn away...
Your mighty power has bewitched me

So be kind, be a mother
Let me sleep in your deep dark bosom
Protect me with your ferocious arms
Let no one break the chains that you've bound me with !

As Life Moves On...

...there comes a time when you realise that even the last remnants of a fairytale have crumbled and fallen off...When your close friend goes through a divorce...when a classmate's kid succumbs to a terminal illness...When you don't know how to console...in fact, you don't even know whether to console...Maybe, they have moved on...After all, you get to know about it much later...After all, you don't communicate frequently...Your friendship is strong enough ...Or the acquaintance is weak enough...But in both cases, you assume the status quo won't change in 2-3 months...You live in a cocoon...You think you've kept them also inside it...that, somehow, the perils of life won't touch them...And then you realise you are wrong...And you stand perplexed...Wondering how to hold their hands...Realising they are already in a different world...You cannot touch their hearts...

And then in desperation you turn around and try to hold the hand that is still close to you...Le…

Life's Like That - 5

Every time hubby gets his friends home, they speak a different language...Lady gets left out of the conversation and feels left out of hubby's life...lady feels hubby is oblivious of this problem and decides to bring it to his notice....


Lady to hubby: "Why do you always have to resort to that language when you are with friends?"


Hubby (innocent and wide eyed as usual): "What language?"


Lady: " Your medical jargons...I am unable to follow the conversation when you talk about....Well, I can't even recollect all those terms you use"


Hubby: "So, what's wrong in that? Anything you don't understand, you just have to ask..."


Lady (frustrated with pouting lips) : "Yea, but the conversation is fully peppered with jargons. I have no clue of the context even...And anyway, I feel that is inconsiderate and shows a total lack of caring for my emotions...blah blah..."


Hubby (bulb shining over his forehead): "Oh okok...I got it.... you…

Being a Socialist

Well, I don't believe in equal distribution of wealth...but these days I often wish the world would have been easier to live in had God been a socialist and there was an equal distribution of intelligence among human beings...It is just impossible to drive sense into a thick skull :( ... The negotiations, hand holding and patience required to get results out of people who refuse to use their brains cause such a colossal waste of time, energy and resources...

At times, I keep reducing my speed of thoughts and ideas to match the others...so as to reach an agreeable solution...but sometimes it is just very very frustrating...You feel that your own brain will lose its sharpness due to lack of use...

Random Nonsense

I'm late to do this one...Deadline being eight hours...But every deadline has a loophole...and since time is relative...and there was no specific mention of "earth hours", I guess I'm still on time....Afterall, I'm from Venus :P

Well, have been tagged - by alex....this time with a deadline of 8 hours and significant consequences if the deadline is missed....So here goes....

Eight Random Facts - about myself....

1. I have an opinion on everything under the sun - from child rearing to global warming ....though these days I almost always keep them to myself...
2. It takes very little to make me happy - even less to make me sad too....(Hubby says life with me is a roller coaster ride)
3. I prefer truth to diplomacy - if you don't like something about me I'd rather you tell me about it...than smile at me and then bitch about me to the rest of the world....By the same token, a smile on my face is a smile from my heart and a frown is a frown....
4. I believe that like…

Can Someone Lend Me...

...some time? Yea, you heard me right... these days my life has taken on a very hectic hue...and I find a lot of people around me with a lot of time on their hands...if only they could give some of that to me....no, its not that I don't organise my time properly...I accomplish a lot of things in my 24 hours...But, I really would love to pack in some more...And here goes my wish list...I need more time ...

1. To read the newspaper in the morning
2. To watch television in the evening
3. To snuggle up with a book...more often than now
4. To make my house spotless during weekends
5. To plant my roses
6. To watch the rain (and not worry about the wet clothes, the unwashed clothes, the uncooked meals, the power failure, etal)
7. To listen to music (not just in the car, in between conversations...rather the unadulterated joy of being one with the song)

I wish I had more time, so that I need not prioritise...and let go of some of my favorite things...just 'cos they aren't important enough…

Success

Neither fame nor fortune holds the key...
I measure my success by the smiles in your heart !

P.S: Post dedicated to all Stay At Home Moms/Wives

Positive Fixations

These days, there is a lot of emphasis on "being happy, thinking positive" and so on. It is the latest fad - being happy always. And like any other fad, the majority of society runs behind it, and spends hard earned money on it...without thinking about the actual benefits (or whether there are any benefits at all). And the smart ones out there are making money, by literally making you dance to their tunes....

While I agree that it is always better to be happy and positive, it need not be an obsession. No one can be happy all the time. The purpose of tears is not just to keep your eyes moist....And I believe whoever created the human body (or however it got created, if you believe in evolution...) is infinitely more intelligent than all the new age gurus put together....So, if you have the ability to feel anger, sorrow, jealousy and so on...it must definitely be having a purpose...

Who is society to decide that some are positive feelings and others are negative feelings? What i…

Puzzle

If someone you care for (let's call him/her A) gets hurt by your behaviour to B who is someone you don't care for (rather someone you abhor from the very depths of your heart, which you previously didn't know existed...), then do you apologize to B for the sake of A? Or do you remain true to your convictions?

Complicating elements of the puzzle:

1. You adore A as much as you abhor B
2. A adores B as much as you abhor B
3. B has hurt you with words and actions in every encounter
4. You don't have the choice of an open communication with B, where you can tell him/her how much you get irritated by the way s/he treats you

Random Thoughts...

The one thing that is definitely good about my new job is the bus service...The ten minute joy ride gives me ample 'time for myself'...And they play good music...

Today, it was raining...realised how much I missed monsoons in God's own country...It had been five years since I left...Brought back a lot of memories...wet uniforms, wet hair, wet books...wet trees, rivulets of water on the road....

A tamil song - haunting music - took me to college days, the amazing excursions .... the don't care attitude , the same assignment written many times ... paid for by diary milk...whose size was proportionate to the pages written ... the friendships lost forever....

And then the same song- a sadder version - as if it was almost telling me that I can never go back in time...brought me back to the present...and the deadlines for the day....

Yea, and I almost forgot to add - the people in my new firm are far more humane, loving and caring....and more importantly, more genuine...than the…

It's been a year...

You painted rainbows in the cloudy skies of my mind
You taught me to enjoy the roller-coaster called "life"
When others failed their promises, you cushioned the blows.

You've humoured my moods, tolerated my culinary skills (or lack of it) ,
Encouraged my dreams, and loved me in your own special way :)

It's been a year, since it's been official...
But you've made me realise there is nothing official about it -
You are and will always be my best friend.

Thank you, hubby dear...
For being mine and making me yours !!!

Life's Like That - 4

Time: 7:30 AMLady busy trying to prepare breakfast and lunch. Wishful thoughts range from the most dreamy ones "I wish I had ten hands like Ravanan..." to more practical ones like "Oh my God, my bus will come in the next 30 minutes...".With increasing frustration she realises that the chicken which hubby bought home the previous day was not "ready-to-cook" as she expected, but rather required elaborate cleaning.Lady calls up hubby to crib. She complains - "The chicken you bought is full of blood !@#$"Hubby replies genuinely - "That's wonderful. That way, we atleast know the chicken is fresh."

Isn't it a Wonder...

...that when you agree with a friend s/he never questions "why are you agreeing? how can you agree when you've not been there/experienced it?" but if you happen to disagree, then it suddenly becomes "how dare you disagree? you've never been there, so you will not understand ..."

And I Read...

The thinking and thought provoking philosopher Alex has tagged me.

The rules:

1. Name the person (of course with the link) who tagged you.
2. Publish the 5th paragraph of page 123 of the book you are currently reading. (if the page does not have 5th paragraph, take the last paragraph. And if the book doesn’t have page no. 123, take the last page.)
Well, I am taking the liberty to change the tag a bit...to quote what I like best in the book I am currently reading...'cos para 5 of page 123 is too long and too boring :)

And I Read...

"In the restorative idleness of solitude, on the other hand, the widows discovered that the honourable way to live was at the body's bidding, eating only when one was hungry, loving without lies, sleeping without having to feign sleep inorder to escape the indecency of official love, possessed at last of the right to an entire bed to themselves, where no one fought them for half the sheet, half of the air they breathed, half of their night, until thei…

Waving Goodbye...

...to the city of my dreams...
From where I ...
Received my first pay cheque...
Tasted my first glass of wine...
Learned to dodge backstabs...
Transitioned from child to adult...
Travelled in a bike at 130kmph...
Dug into my first KFC chicken, Pizza Corner pizza and McDonald burger...
Returned home safely at 1:00 pm in the nite...
Roamed in a mall just for the heck of it...
Survived on my own...

I've had the best of times with you....and the worst of times too...But, you will always hold that special place in my heart which is reserved for first loves...

Life's Like That - 3

Lady was in one of her most grumpy moods....the fact that Air Deccan delayed its morning flight to evening did not help matters...the additional fact that the airline representative chose 1:00 AM in the morning to inform of the delay didn't help either...the incidental result of having to miss an important meeting was brushed under the carpet as too insignificant to be bothered about...after all, not a life and death situation...

Lady sits at the airport royally bugged about the loss of a productive day and wondering why adjustments seem a one-way street...

In between her morose thoughts, she notices two kids trying to play with each other...One around 6 months old - Indian origin, crawling on its knees, barely able to stand up holding onto things. The other, around one and half years - a Caucasian with curly blonde hair happily walking around. They were finding it difficult to play as the younger one, much as he tried couldn't stand up and the elder one had to bend down to see …

A Musical Saga

I love music...all kinds..whether its sweet melody or hard rock, if the setting is right I enjoy it...I still remember friends staring in disbelief at a normally quiet me thoroughly enjoyin a rock concert in my b-school....I was mesmerised by the extra loud speakers...your heart literally beats in rhythm with the music !!!

My earliest memories of life are associated with music...when I was in kindergarten I used to sleep listening to my grandmother's radio (yeah, vividh bharati and akashavani - it was long before FM)

Then I won a pocket radio as a prize while in secondary school ...Needless to say, it was one of my most cherished possessions...

Then somewhere along the line, radio was replaced by car stereo and tape cassettes...

In college these again got replaced by MP3 stored in my computer...

When I started working, radio made a spicyhot comeback to the city.... The only feature in my cell phone other than the ability to make and receive calls is an in-built FM radio...

I am wonderin…

One More Time...

One more time, I burn my dreams To fire up yours... One more time... I soak up your tears in the spongy remnants of my expectations... I manure your garden of hopes by my decayed ones... I take the smile from my heart and place it on your lips... One more time, I muffle my screams of agony For you to have a peaceful sleep... One more time, I paint your portrait; With the blood of my soul.

Replacements

When a chauffeur's board replaces a warm welcome smile,
When a strip of medicines by the bedside replaces a loving tender hand on a burning forehead,
When money replaces "being there" ....

A passionate heart gets replaced by a cold stone :(

Corporate Learnings

I've always believed that you can learn something from everyone....even from your worst enemies, you can learn how not to behave !!! So here goes a quick list of lessons I have learned the hard way....

1. Ensure your team is well fed - In today's corporate world 12-16 hour work days are a norm rather than an exception. The least you can do, is to ensure that lunch and dinner is provided to your team on time. And yea, on time doesn't mean when YOU are hungry, it means when each person is hungry !!! Afterall, my stomach is far less sophisticated than my brain...so, even when I recognise you are the boss, my stomach doesn't ! And my brain IS totally controlled by my stomach.

2. Pass information at your own risk - Most people will not hesitate to use any information you provide to their advantage. So if you are saying something to someone, be prepared for the worst possible use of it...

3. Act !!! - The foundation stone of corporate world is built on what is called 'perc…

New Look

Yes !!! My blog has a new look now...I wanted to customise it further but realised my html is too rusty..so went the easy route and used one of the ready made templates available. But yea, by the end of the year, hopefully I would have mastered enough Adobe Photoshop and HTML to create a cool look...That's one more to my list of resolutions for the year !!!

Being Friends...

Does being your friend entail that I agree with whatever you say and support whatever you do? Is a true friend supposed to help resolve issues or pour fuel to fire? I wonder....

I wonder whether I should wish long term happiness for you (at the cost of pain today) or rather please you in the short term?

Even when I know the truth, the hurt and the sorrow you suffer can't I wish deep within that there is some hidden happiness which you can uncover ?

Just 'cos I spare a thought for people who hurt you, does it mean I don't think of you or understand your pain?

When you are confused whether to love or hate, should I encourage you to hate?

I really wonder ....'cos I care...and I care more deeply than most !!!

Life's Like That - 2

Lady barely survives the hectic work week by spinning dreams about the long weekend...

Thursday morning...

A bunch of colleagues plan to celebrate the long weekend in the land of gals, oceans and alcohol !!! Most of office is in a vacation mood already...

Thursday noon...

The party goers leave by lunch time, dumping work on the lady...the flight to Goa is around 3.00 pm... lady is upset that her flight home is only by late evening...

3.00 pm

Lady gets to know that the Goa flight is delayed....She feels irritated...if Goa flight is delayed then her own low cost ATR hardly has a hope...dreams of a good dinner slowly turn to a nightmare of angry and irritated passengers in the airport...Tries reaching the call centre...as usual no response...

5.30 pm

After finishing all her (and others') work , lady leaves for airport mentally getting prepared for the long weekend queue and even longer wait in the airport....

6.00 pm

Surprisingly the check-in queue is very short...Most flights are delayed...

6.…

Ironies of Life

A survey conducted to measure the "Happiness Quotient" in the team, revolving around questions of whether your efforts are getting recognized and due credit given....without giving credit to the designer of the survey....

A medical student on duty denied urgent medical aid. Reason given - staff shortage !

A vehement support given to a friend...to the extent of agreeing that "a friend's enemy is my enemy" ....without considering what this unknown enemy "feels"...

So many such instances in life, where the intention and result do not match...

I wonder... a little bit of extra sensitiveness in us, a willingness to see all sides of the story, a more open mind...can these overcome the bitter ironies of life? At least, the small everyday ones...

Make a Difference - 1

Make your ideas heard...

http://www.cipe.org/programs/women/essay.php

And though the link says women, it's open to guys as well....

Little Drops of Water

A normally sensible bvn, had a difference of opinion on my previous post He said "individual solutions and that too insignificant ones at that, to bigger systemic problems..." I know he also wants to see a better place...The only difference is in the approach, I feel...He thinks (rather I think he thinks :P) that only revolutionary changes (rather a change at a big scale) can resolve systemic problems... Now, I always believed (note the past tense) that individual solutions are very powerful even to systemic problems....and that we shouldn't wait for revolutionary changes to happen before we act in our own small way... However, that comment set me thinking... Are individual solutions actually insignificant? Should I be trying more for a massive change rather than begin with smaller first steps? And like a pleasant coincidence today my firm organized a meeting on corporate social responsibility and how each one of us can make a difference....But, the speaker didn't give …

Marketing Mix

There is a concept of "marketing mix" that is considered one of the fundamental pillars of successful marketing - it consists of 4 Ps - Product, Price, Place and Promotion. You choose to tweak these parameters to make it perfect for your target customer base.... For example, you may have a lower priced version for the larger masses and then a superior "aspirational" one for the elite...You may make a product available everywhere...or only in exclusive outlets in 5 star hotels...and so on...

I feel, we do that in our relationships as well...Depending on the other party in a relationship, we present ourselves differently....

Sometimes, we come in a sleek package with actually no worthy product...at other times, we are rough diamonds in a rubbish bin...

We sell ourselves short to some ...we act elusive to others...

We promote our skills...we act modest...

We are some one's best dream ...and an other one's worst nightmare...

Wonder who is the real person? An amalga…

Beliefs and Actions

The human mind is in a constant search for something to believe in...A kind of anchor point to root oneself...A comparison chart against which alternate courses of action can be pitted against...

Beliefs change with circumstances and time....Youth gets attracted to idealistic beliefs...Age tempers down some of them.... That is quite human...

However, at times people profess a belief and act in a contrary manner....

A classic example is a 'once upon a time fire brand student leader with leftist inclinations' working for an MNC, sipping cola and speaking against how both the MNC and the cola giant is "oppressive"....and adding in for good measure "yea, but what to do...I need to make money too"

I say, atleast have the spine to admit that your belief systems can't get you what you want !!!

Life's Like That

Lady goes home with hopes of a happy weekend with hubby...due to last minute confusions hubby has night duty in labour room....after two consecutive days of this night duty resulted lack of attention, lady confronts hubby when he returns home the second day morning and storms out of the room with an angry huff and puff....

After five minutes, lady feels sorry for hubby and stupid about her childish behaviour...decides to go back to the room and apologise...only to see tired hubby snoring away...lady decides to be playful...takes a handful of facewash gel and pours it over sleeping hubby's face....the moment the liquid trickles down to his nose....hubby jolts up exclaiming "Oh, my God amniotic fluid amniotic fluid!!!".......

Isn't it a Wonder...

...that when a lady becomes a mother almost everyone tells her to "take a break from your profession, relax and enjoy your motherhood" , but hardly anyone tells the father to "take a break from your profession, relax and enjoy your fatherhood" ? :P

Resolutions

I know it is a bit too late for resolutions...almost a quarter late as per set norms...but I was never a new year resolution person...for me new year was all about cards...anyway, that's another topic altogether...today, I suddenly had this urge to pen down a plan for the year...rather what is left of it...and here it is...

1. Travel : Both hubby and me being avid travel bugs, a list without places to visit is no list at all...This year my personal choices are Australia, Leh, Andamans (or even Lakshadweep) and North East India (atleast one state) - not necessarily in that order.

2. Books : I really love to end a tiring day with a few pages. I have recently re-discovered this pleasure , thanks to my hubby who religiously takes me to the library every weekend (his personal motive ofcourse, is having to deal with a far more pleasant me during the week :P). I hope I can end this year more intellectually enriched.

3. No-no to plastic : It all started with the government in God's Own C…

Mediocrity

I find it everywhere...

Shopping
A shopkeeper peddling inferior stuff, poor customer service...demanding a premium still...

Transportation
Pot holed roads....rigged meters...abusive language...policemen who shrug their shoulders....

In the workplace
A subordinate giving a mediocre report...a boss saying "Let it be, we don't have time to modify it"

Most people seem quite satisfied with mediocrity...in fact they feel that's the way it should be...excellence and perfection are not even worthy goals anymore.... packaging seems to be more relevant than the product itself...

The underlying root cause behind all of this is an absence of sincerity....a sincere effort to excel...

Complacence...being satisfied with just floating along with the current (and the scum, too)...

Personally, I feel encouraging mediocrity is one of the worst sins one can do to the human race.

A True Friend

In that bygone era known as childhood, it was easy to recognize true friends…they were the ones who waited for you after lunch to join hands in that long and arduous trek to the bathroom complex which was at the other end of the school….They were the ones who shared their lunch boxes with you…and sometimes even helped you finish your lunch faster so that you can rush to the playground faster…they ran with you …sometimes falling down with you and getting bruised, sometimes picking you up when you fell and accompanying you to the much dreaded “iodine room” with reassurances through tearful eyes …“No it won’t hurt”…No logical explanations on why it won’t hurt…no complex analysis of why you fell down in the first place…or how the fall could have been prevented…no pinning responsibilities of who pushed you down…

And then you grow up…and long for that friend who would cry just because you are crying…who would just tell you “No it won’t hurt”…and you long for that innocence which will help yo…

God Vs Humans

A festival….in the name of a Goddess….only for women….where they cook an offering for Her…She who grants all your wishes…well, nothing wrong with that…except that over the years it has reached the levels of a mob frenzy…it closes down an entire city….as this mass cooking takes place on public roads…even railway platforms…and traffic is blocked….as they say “either you are with us or against us”…and this time, the organizers proudly claimed that this has even entered the “Guinness Book of World Records”…whoever said of faith being a private matter must be twisting in their graves…
Another festival…this time in the name of a God…who stays awake the entire year to watch over you…and then for one day you stay awake to watch over Him…nothing wrong here again…except that a whole bunch of Police force is spread out at night…and the devotees are running from one temple to another…most often jostling and elbowing the people running along with them…. wonder when did a prayer also become a rat ra…

Two Different Sets

Parents...they come in all shapes and sizes....here is a profile of two different sets....

The first set, gloats and gloats....about their kids....about how brilliant they are....about how they are inevitable to the organizations where they work...about inflated salaries...unfortunately, these people don't realise that at least our generation is roughly aware of salary bands and this kind of mindless boasting just makes them laughing stock in our eyes...and this gloating doesn't stop with just career...their kids seem like God's blessing to mankind..."Oh, my daughter is soooo beautiful" ...."His wife is amazinggggg "(even if everyone knows they are on the verge of a divorce!!)

The second set is quite the opposite...they always play their kids down...even if they are the best in school, the parents' version will be "He is not really making use of his potential" ...."Oh his salary is nothing worth writing home about" (despite being a…

Living on the Edge

Imagine you suddenly find yourself at the edge of a cliff....When you peer down all you see is darkness...But there is an extremely reliable signboard which says that once you let go and do a free fall a beautiful valley awaits you....You also have the choice of turning back and walking on steady ground....Most of us, when faced with this situation, surprisingly choose neither to courageously (or rashly, depending on your viewpoint) jump down, nor to walk back....We just stay there...in a sort of suspended animation (and definitely suspended judgement) and keep looking down and looking behind....literally living on the edge....

Wonder why we all dread drastic changes...why comfort zones and known devils are always better than uncertainity and unknown friends......

Maybe that's why financial analysts world over conclude that more than 80% of people surveyed have "moderate" risk appetite :P

Corporate Weirdos - Part 5

This weirdo species has all my sympathies - 'cos they are mostly novices in the corporate jungle...and i call them the "Corporate Scapegoats" (CSG for short)....every workplace that I know of has them....and they are identified by the following characteristics :

1. New to the corporate world - these species quickly and effectively morph within a year or two, shedding their goat skin for more sophisticated ones...

2. Do not know CYA - They are still human enough to believe that a spoken word is good enough and hence are not capable of sending e-mails to their peers in the next desk with titles like FYI (for your information) or to clients which re-iterate "As discussed over phone..." all of which are essentially just to Cover Your A@# (CYA)

3. Whine, whine - They do not know how to avoid the cardinal sin of saying "I don't want to/have to do this". Being new comers in the jungle, they are saddled with the kind of work that others don't want to be …

Alone in a Crowd...

...it's a feeling that most of us experience some time or the other...when the mind leaves the confines of the body and its surroundings and flies off....at times in a happy glider, at times in a depressive free fall...
....in a classroom where everyone else is paying rapt attention and you are dreaming about your soul mate

.....in a party where you wonder why your wavelength just doesn't match with the group you ended up with

.....in an airport lounge where you are literally in the middle of strangers - different airlines, different destinations....just one common linkage "delay due to fog"

I often wonder, whether one is expected to control the mind in these instances and make it concentrate on the present and train it to be an active part of it or is it more fun to let it be....in quite literal terms .....a free spirit

If I were...

I belong to that distinctively weird group of idiots who think that they have absolutely no regrets in life....I believe all dreams are achievable...But, as life moves on, you realise that all dreams won't be achievable, some remain just that...and that's their charm...in reality they may not be very nice...but as dreams they hold that amazing power to transport you to a different world...of sweet longing...and at these times, I really wish I were a guy...rather I wish I would be a guy next time around....Here's why....

1. To go to a movie hall and spontaneously break out into a dance regardless of the rest of the crowd
2. To go for a basketball match and swirl my t-shirt around - either as a player or as a viewer, but basically experience the fun of pullin out a sweaty t-shirt in public :P
3. To go down on my knees and ask the hand of my soulmate (hmmm, mine never did it for me...)
and so on....

Basically, just to experience the freedom of being a guy and to enjoy those simple…

Moving On...

...or moving away??? A choice one faces very often...in professional as well as personal life...when someone acts in a way that causes hurt....in a way that is not right....in a way that is not acceptable to years of conditioning...
...and then you have to make the choice of whether you forget and move on or hold the grudge and move away....Till recently I've thought that this "move on or move away" dilemma's answer depended on the specific details of the circumstance as well as one's personal value system....But now enlightenment has dawned on me....It is neither the circumstance or the value system...It's all about the offender...if you like him/her previously then you somehow try to justify their actions and move on...if you don't then you use that situation as the perfect excuse to move away....
Rational analysis has no statistically significant effect on this response generation....Guess, that's why even the most rational of us are still human bein…

Intelligence...but how much???

I wonder what is the optimum amount of intelligence that a person can have.....I feel it should be directly proportional to the circumstances you are in....

...just enough to feel content with what life offers...enough to make lemonade when life throws lemons at you...

But, when life throws lemons at you and you are intelligent enough to know that orange juice tastes better.....then you are actually miserable...

Then again, if your circumstances are such that there are orange trees in the vicinity, then this intelligence is helpful....but what if you are in a place where there are no orange trees, no oranges ...not even seeds....

Yea, as a general rule, intelligence is useful....it gives you more choices and an ability to choose optimally....but there are situations in life when one is forced to humbly bow down to the sagely wisdom of "ignorance is bliss"

Wedding Gifts

It's been more than six months....and I believe anything that is not used in the past six months is usually never gonna be used...and so I guess this is a good time to compile a list of do's and don'ts about choosing a wedding gift...especially in India where the more practical idea of a wishlist is still frowned upon and gift giving is more an emotional process....and by emotional I don't necessarily mean love, it can also be the emotion of "My gift should look bigger than the rest..." So here goes the list....From my own personal experience of having to wade through mountains of gifts and more tediously finding a place to store the useless ones...

Best Gifts

1. Money - This is the best gift you could possibly give on any occasion. The denomination doesn't matter....even if it is a very small amount, in fact especially in these cases when you can't really buy anything useful with your budget, refrain from the urge to get a bigger gift...give it in cash…

Path of Least Resistance

There is something interesting with most people...they perform the best when there are no stakes at all...be it a game show on television or a high pressure consulting job like mine....when you are no longer a part of the race, you somehow elevate yourselves...as soon as you land a job which pays you a few thousands more... you feel you are better than the rest and are capable of giving advice...

One such elevated soul in my firm decided to give me some sagely advice one day....and he said "Why are you breaking your head and making life difficult for you and others by clinging on to principles and values? In life, you should always follow the path of least resistance...that's the key to success and progress"...He went on to add how he has progressed by following these principles....I am still too young to put myself as an example to counter his arguments and present my case....

But I really really hope that ten years down the lane, I am able to call him up and tell him th…

Singapore - Unique???

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Had been there for Xmas...just for four days...but a well-deserved break...after all, I had successfully taken on additional roles and responsibilities in the year gone by - became wife, daughter-in-law and most difficult of all, 'relative' to a host of strangers....(OK, let me at least pat my own back here, since no one else seems to be doing it for me anyway) Mmm, I enjoyed the break - since time was short, I had to make do with the usual tourist hot-spots - sentosa, Singapore zoo and Jurong bird park. Highlights of the trip were:


1. A visit to a 'theme club' - The theme was bollywood, the place was teaming with Indians, and since our childhood friend took us there, it seemed like I was in India itself. But still enjoyed the sheer freedom of being able to hug your hubby in front of other people....Needless to say, hubby dear just about tolerated the 'overt expression of affection' and my friend thought I was positively drunk !!!! Well, I was drunk, not on alcoh…