Vouching for the Underdog..
...it comes naturally to me. The underdog need not necessarily represent principles I stand for in life...If I see, someone being hammered down by a vociferous group, I would somehow manage to identify an argument in his/her favour although I might be in total disagreement with the idea...I always knew I was like this ever since childhood, when I would support a classmate being scolded by the teacher and derided by the rest of the class or when I would support a teacher whom the rest of the class hates...I have managed to carry forward that trait all through to my adulthood ...But I never realised how strongly I support the underdog until recently when I started blog-hopping regularly...I often have this tremendous urge to leave a comment opposing whatever idea is being talked about..especially if the comments section is full of "yea i agree with you"...And b'cos I don't want to be teared apart for being the lone voice I usually return without commenting...unless its the blog of a friend...
I wonder where this "I should support the underdog" spirit come from..Maybe,its just a sense of fairness...of wanting the other voice to be heard...Or maybe its just that I'm a rebel without a cause...as my boss calls me...
PS: This post was inspired by this blog , where the blogger travels down memory lane with hatred against her mom and sisters who ill-treated her in childhood. Most of the comments there symapthise with her....Somehow, although I know if she has to carry the hatred for so long it must have been deep, I still feel like saying maybe her mom and sisters weren't as bad as projected...Maybe, just maybe, it is a matter of skewed perception...I wish so, for the sake of that 70 year old mom....
I wonder where this "I should support the underdog" spirit come from..Maybe,its just a sense of fairness...of wanting the other voice to be heard...Or maybe its just that I'm a rebel without a cause...as my boss calls me...
PS: This post was inspired by this blog , where the blogger travels down memory lane with hatred against her mom and sisters who ill-treated her in childhood. Most of the comments there symapthise with her....Somehow, although I know if she has to carry the hatred for so long it must have been deep, I still feel like saying maybe her mom and sisters weren't as bad as projected...Maybe, just maybe, it is a matter of skewed perception...I wish so, for the sake of that 70 year old mom....
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If you look some other way, there is no bad or good people. Her mother, sisters, everyone are prone to circumstances and genetically acquired traits. Yet, here we are reading through the view of a little girl, and that is what you get.
cheers,,
@techno malayali: I agree that only she knows what she went through...and that's why I wasn't judgemental..I just expressed a wish that maybe they are not as bad as they are projected to be...Its jus a wish...for the sake of a happy family...no judgements....
i just started reading sarah s blog n im sure its all true.even i had gone through something similar n i undersatnd how it feels. just coz u were always blessed wid a nice family n safe life it doesnt u to be heartless wid other ppl. n yeah... it hurts a lot dear! just put urself in dat situation n think how u would have felt at all those moments. im sure i must have given up the battle. she is not the underdog. she lives n now writes about it...that itself prooves the extend of truth n her strength.
its always easy to ignore certain questions about the life of othe ppl n criticize just to gain some attention of being somebody who can think different like u did...now try thr hard thing out...empathise...understand..pray...believe..respect n smile for sarah
cheers
maneesha
then again as I have said at other times too...to each his/her own...so peace !
its hard to percieve with life hits u hard! u cant sit back n try n percieve the blow but rather get blown n then struggle to put back thing in life.
when life is hard...it is hard! that is the truth. n trying to understand it in worldly senses is a thought forgot. none of us are born with it. we seek our path for this capabilities n we seek when life is hard. how can a person having fun of a life ever seek the essence of life? its only when we are struck we try to find out...why? why me? how 2 get out of it? n u cant really blame a person's persevernce. because percepception blooms at hard time.
so when life is hard. it is hard. n u cant justify the mood. :)
@ maneesha: good point there. thinking diff...questioning is good. but becomes great and beautiful ONLY with a tinch of basic humanitarian feeling of undersatnding, agreeing!
She was hell bent that her children should not talk to any boy that they would get bad name and all the while she was disappearing "over there" every now and then. Neighbors are asking the children whether they also started their mothers job. What does that mean? Her character should have been impeccable so that she shouldn't have given a bad name to herself and her children as well.
I also had a mother who was working, but she never gave any bad name to her and us and she brought us up single handedly when my father passed away when we were pretty small.
Also, I don't understand your reference to 'impeccable character'...what is impeccable to you maybe unacceptable to another...just talkin to a boy is acceptable to you, may not be acceptable to someone who is more conservative...so another person's character is essentially just a function of how open your mindset is...as long as you are not directly affected by his/her behaviour.