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Charity Begins ...

As a child, there were several proverbs/idioms that didn't make any sense to me. For a long time, after I was familiar with 'Charity begins at home' , I had no idea what it meant...Even today, I am not sure I fully understand what it means...Same goes for "Raining cats and dogs" and "Fraility thy name is woman" ...

Anyway, back to charity...I have been observing people's behaviour around charity and this led to some interesting observations:

1. People generally donate to causes which have had a direct impact on their lives - either a personal tragedy or a tragedy that has unfurled in front of them...I was talking to an NGO which works with cancer patients and was surprised to note that there are people who donate money with explicit instructions on the age/gender profile of people who should be helped. Maybe, personal tragedies change people in ways one cannot fathom...I am no one to judge. This world needs all the help it can get and better a con…

Forgiveness

Asking for forgiveness is never easy. It is even more difficult when the other person is not civil enough to accept it gracefully. Recently, I decided to ask someone for forgiveness...I decided to do it against my better judgement and ended up grovelling...

The process of begging went on for about a couple of hours and after a point in time, I relaised that I am just mechanically repeating "I am sorry" with no trace of emotion...The receiving party though seemed quite satisfied at having crushed my ego and chose that as an opportunity to extract her pound of flesh...

This happened almost a month back, and somehow that incident changed me fundamentally...My spirit got crushed so badly that I finally saw a few things that I was refusing to see...Have you ever asked someone for forgiveness more than once? If so, it would be a good idea to look back on how many times the other person has asked you for forgiveness...After all, everyone makes mistakes and if the apologies are flo…

Stereotypes

This thought has been in my head for the past couple of weeks, but, somehow I couldn't really translate it to words...

Growing up, it was always drummed into our heads that "Thazhna nilathe neerooduuu" which literally translates to "water always flows downhill" and figuratively highlights the importance of being humble....

Well, my tongue in cheek retort often was that the shit also flows downhill...

Anyway, I was always considered arrogant primarily because I always spoke my mind and never followed tradition for the sake of following it...It was quite annoying when people commented thus "She never wears a bindi ! How arrogant !" and I never could understand why !

Recently, I stopped wearing any jewellery and a conversation with a random stranger (in his fifties) in the train went thus:

Stranger: " Are you married ?"
Me: "Yes, and I have a son also!"
Stranger: "Then, why are you walking without any visible marks of being mar…