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Pregnancy and Feminism - How Heavy or How Lite?

A few days back, I shared this link on FB. It is an extract from a much larger piece on Feminism (which has now been converted into a book) and it talks about why it is necessary to reject the idea of feminism lite.

Being the wife of a natural feminist (yes, men can be feminists too !) I face this a lot. Many people, well-wishers and otherwise, often tell me that I am lucky to have him as a hubby. Let's park the lucky or otherwise bit for a moment, and look at what makes them say this. Lucky you - he is an involved parent. Lucky you - he lets you follow your dreams. Lucky you - he makes coffee for you. Lucky you - well, you get the drift....This does not need any explanation - a healthy union of 2 individuals need not be mired in gender stereotypes at all.

The flip side of this is that it is far tougher for a guy to be a feminist in a misogynist society such as the one I live in. He is constantly bombarded with friendly and not so friendly jabs about how his friends have it far e…

On Faith, Disability, Social Media and More..

I have been reading some very interesting stuff lately: Farnam Street, Melting Asphalt, Paul Graham's Essays, and Base Hit Investing have been some of my favorites*. I have been able to identify with all of these writings quite easily. Identify , not agree. I could get where they were coming from. I shared some of these on social media...and as is the nature of the social media beast, there was hardly any intellectual curiosity induced responses...Not surprisingly, many reached out to ask "what happened?" and "why the rant?" ...It took quite some time to explain that I was sharing something I found interesting and it had nothing to do with any specific instance. Just being alive for nearly 4 decades, gives you enough experiences to identify with certain thought processes...Which led me to think on behaviour triggers and mind bending thoughts and voyeuristic curiosity.  
I love going to hubby's hospital in the afternoons. That is when babies are born mostly…

The Power of Experiences

When you are young, you look at life with a certain freshness of thought and vision, which disappears as you grow older. Recklessness is replaced by careful consideration and dreams are replaced by realistic goals..one might argue that there are people who keep their passions alive till their last breath and I am the first one to agree...But still in the continuum of risk vs. conservatism, the scale does shift towards the right, as experiences are added..

Till recently, I used to think that was a sad fact. Not anymore ! There are certain benefits that come with experience which nothing can replace. While I still scoff at people who respond to a piece of advice (let's say on parenting from a childless person or on career from a housewife) with "What do you know ? You have not been through it", I also now realize that someone who has been through the experience is far more qualified to offer advice than someone who hasn't...

I used to often think that people are too b…

Updates !

Yes, almost 10% of the year is already over. I thought I was done with the miseries of 2016 when I went for the much dreamt of vacation in Cambodia. Well, it was not quite the case. 
The vacation was great although my younger one was literally quite a hand full. I am looking forward to the day she will eat by herself as these days most of my time revolves around trying to convince her to eat ! The history and mythology of the place was mind boggling.The food was amazing as well. Though I didn't shop much, clothes are dirt cheap there. So, all in all a great place to visit. 
The way nature eats into the most magnificent of human creations, showed to me how time is a great leveler. The almost surreal way in which a tree's roots destroy those temples taught me that trees are living things - like no science text book ever can. On a very unrelated note, I wonder why vegetarians often take the moral high ground of not hurting living things ! As far as my moral compass goes - killin…

The Year That Was...

For the first time in my life, I was quite hesitant to write this post. Throughout my adult life, I have made some very curious choices. Sometimes I have let my heart guide me, and at other times I have allowed my head to guide me. In both cases, sometimes the path I took worked out and sometimes it didn't. However, when things went wrong - I found it far easier to forgive myself, pick up the pieces and march on, when the decisions were guided by the heart. Was it 'cos I could justify it to myself saying "Oh, well, I was anyway being an emotional fool !" ? I am not sure. It is far tougher when a decision taken with your head, results in an undesirable outcome. 'Cos then you have to question not just the outcome, but the process itself - and its scary ! And boring ! And cowardly too ! 
So, if there is one life lesson I will carry with me to my grave from 2016, it is this - Always, always, always follow your heart ! Even if the entire universe tells you you are on…

As The Years Roll By...

I was browsing through a stationery store the other day and was surprised to see 2017 diaries on the aisles ..and then it stuck me that the year is winding down to a close.

Browsing through my old posts I realized that I have been posting my New Year Resolutions and their reviews for close to ten years...I also realized that there are dreams which are more than ten years old, which haven't come true yet..Some of them of course have lost their charm - we change after all !

But, instead of framing any new resolutions, I decided to spring clean my dreams and the ones which are still shining in my heart - I will try to make them happen in 2017.

Travel - This has been a great passion of mine, and I have seen quite a few places in the past years. But, Venice, Leh and Switzerland still remain dreams. I hope next year, I can do at least a couple of these places.

Declutter and Styling - Yes, I have cleaned out a large portion of my house, but there are few areas pending. Hubby enjoys living…

The Game of Life

I was browsing through Quora the other day, and this tagline caught my eye "The game is not over until I have won it"...The images that came flashing to my mind was that of a tantrum throwing child, followed immediately by a confident youth...

And then I realised...the impermanence of youth...and how it has more or less passed for me...The past couple of months have shown me how the game can be over when you least expect it...many lives don't even get a chance to play the game, let alone win it...Some have a winning lead, but are forced to quit due to an unexpected turn of events...

Maybe, its the red car syndrome, but the past month saw a friend lose a new born baby, another one lose his wife during child birth and a cousin lose his baby in-utero at 7 months...

My grandmother's brother passed away suddenly due to a massive stroke, and the incidence of memory loss/stroke in my maternal side is scary...All my grandmother's siblings (including her) are suffering f…