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SAHM vs. SAHD

I thought I will write a detailed post on the subject, but ultimately all I want to say is this. To all the men out there who feel that if you bring a baby to this world, then you should prioritize baby over career,


"How many of you have downsized/given up your job to take care of your kids???"

It's Been a Long Time...

..since I wrote here.. The delightful cocktail was so heady that me, hubby and the whole family has been on toes for the past 4 and half months. Unlike my first born, I announced her arrival on Facebook and not here. I am unable to upload a snap here due to browser compatibility issues - Well, another time !


In fact, talking about photographs, I hardly take any pictures of her - life is truly a whirlwind these days...


I have gotten back to work - whether that was the right decision - only time will tell.


I got myself a Kindle - and I am happy I did.


Rest later :)

This Time Around...

"So, what's different this time around?" is a question I get asked often...Well, plenty ! For starters, I know that parenting, especially in the first year is not gonna be a rosy affair ! As one of my team members very encouragingly quipped, "When you have your first child, you become a mother. When you have your second child, you become a referee !"

Last time around I was far more healthy - however, by sheer will-power, I decided that this time too I shall work as much as possible and I am happy I managed to do it !

This time around expectations from others are far more tempered down...Yes, I am still upset that I don't get any kind of help from certain quarters, but I have learned to live with it.

The biggest change is that the last time around, I was hardly anticipating the baby to come - I had a good one more month to go officially...In fact, I had come home all set to celebrate Onam and then get back to work ! It all happened all of a sudden - one m…

Handling Advice

As I am getting ready to welcome a new member into my life, I realized that I was quite perturbed by a lot of things that didn't go particularly well the first year when I became a mom ...In fact, it was quite a challenging time for both me and hubby that it put us off from even thinking about another kid for a loong loong time...The wounds of that first year are still very raw, and I am determined not to let them reopen this time around....One of the major things I didn't know then was that there will be a bunch of solicited and unsolicited advice that comes your way...I was clueless on how to handle this and that led to a lot of heart burn...This time around I spend considerable time and energy trying to figure out a framework that will help me deal with the barrage of advice that I get across all streams of life - be it parenting, finance, relationships, education, the city I should live in, the job I should take...well, you get the drift ! This is what I finally came up w…

The Smells That I Love..

1. Petrol - I lovvvve its smell - everytime we go into a petrol pump, I roll down the windows and enjoy the smell...Has been a habit from childhood..I have read later that it is harmful to health and that breathing petrol fumes is actually addictive - well, well !

2. Shoe Polish - The only reason I enjoy going to a shoe shop ! I have got ugly big fat feet and shopping for footwear is always a nightmare - the smell of shoe polish in the showroom is the only saving grace. My son's shoes are not made of leather though, and those shoes use some kind of a liquid polish, which doesn't smell great.

3. Detergent - I like the smell of freshly washed clothes - I also smell the detergent everytime I load the washing machine - it smells great ! BTW, how many of you have tasted soap?

4. New Books - The first thing I do when I get a new book is to smell it...In school, my drawing book had the best smell, and on the day when new books are distributed, I used to spend the entire day smelling…

Looking Back, Looking Ahead....

10 years - almost one-third of my life ! That's the time I have spend as a professional ! Seems unbelievable...When I started my career, I wasn't sure how long I will have a career...Today, I know I will work for atleast another 10 years....I have changed from a naive, wide-eyed 24 year old to a practically wise and experienced person who is much better equipped to handle a back stab, ignore a social media barb, and avoid nay-sayers. I have learned which battles to fight and which ones to walk away from ! I now know that pig headed people who sit on moral high grounds cannot be rationalised with - it is a waste of time and energy that can be better spend elsewhere. There have been several other learnings as well.... 1.  Being around people who respect knowledge motivates you to spend time and effort on increasing your knowledge - It is an enjoyable way to grow in your professional life. 2. There will be people at your workplace who will be willing to bend all rules to progre…

That First Year..

My dear friend send me a book for my birthday - titled Bringing Up Vasu - That First Year. It was written by an IIM grad and when the book was out there was enough marketing noise around it, but I never bought it...I am not sure how much of the fictional account in the book is autobiographical, but reading it made me think about my first year with my baby... Given that I will be going through the whole drill very soon, it was good to look back and reflect...I did a quick browsing through my old posts to see whether I had written something after 1 year and couldn't find anything...Maybe there is a post which I am unable to trace now...Anyway, how I would have talked about that first year then and now is drastically different, so I can write about it again... The book talks about stuff which I could hardly relate to...My experience was very different...The protagonist takes a break from her career to look after the baby and suffers huge guilt pangs every time she tries to get back …

My Vegetable Garden

A post like this should ideally be accompanied by a tonne of 'Look how great they look' photographs of my plants and my produce...Unfortunately, I am too lazy to click and upload pictures for posterity....

I was always fond of gardening, but never got around to it seriously...In childhood gardening was limited to the occasional rose cuttings that I used to get from a great aunt's house...The high point of the 2 pot gardening experiment was when the rose plants somehow got entwined and I had 2 flowers of different colours in the same plant !

Roses were always a weakness, and another attempt was made post marriage to start a rose garden...I ended up having just 1 plant, which flowered exactly once and then wilted....

Recently, there has been a mass movement against pesticide infused vegetables in Kerala. The Horticorp started encouraging terrace gardening and offering grow bags with seeds/seedlings at a discounted price...

As usual I dreamt of my very own vegetable garden …

Birthday Reflections...

One more year rollled by...10 years of professional life - but that's a post for another day...Several people wished me on my b'day - Thank God for Facebook notifications...Several years back someone told me that he felt offended when he took the time to wish someone for their birthday and that person replied to everyone in general 'Thank you all for the wishes !"...ever since that, I make it a point to individually reply back to all Facebook and sms wishes... The usual wishes from my financial services providers was a nice feel...for once they weren't peddling products..
The highlights of the day were the book I got as a gift from a dear friend and the cake that hubby got in the evening...The book review shall also be another post in itself !!!
I also watched Two States the previous nite and for the first time in my life I enjoyed the movie version more than the book - it brought about nostalgic memories of my B-school days - which almost seem like another lifet…

April Sunshine

April has always been a magical month for me ! It amazes me how the month manages to infuse me with a positive energy - the world seems a better place and suddenly problems which seemed insurmountable start feeling like small bumps in the road of life !

My friend came visiting last month and I realized how 'conversation starved' I was ! We spoke and spoke and spoke and I hardly let her have any sleep...It was 3 days of well-planned, royal fun ! She clicked pictures and uploaded them in facebook with some really catchy taglines !

The travel spree continued this month as well - we visited Mookambika on a quick 1 day trip. I realized once more how fragile my health was...Still, I enjoyed the trip...

My sister and nephew are back in town and this has not only added to the April sunshine, but has also made life much easier for me ! My son enjoys spending time with his cousin and apart from having to interfere occasionally to push aside the two warring parties, I get a lot of time…

Women's Day

Before we get on to that...I wonder where did February disappear? I know short month and all that...but it has just whizzed past...I got diamond earrings for Valentine's Day !!! That's the only memory of February that I have now...everything else seems a blur... For the first time in my life, I am wondering what it has been to be a woman? Have I had any privileges because I was a woman? Were there discriminations? And most importantly, have I enjoyed being a woman for 34 odd years in this planet? I am lucky enough to have parents who were proud to have 2 daughters. I realized how privileged I was when recently in an official training multiple senior people started their comments with "Fortunately, I don't have daughters..", "Fortunately, I don't have daughters or sisters..." and so on..I was brizzling, but didn't know how to react. (I always thought discrimination based on gender, atleast when it comes to your own kids was non-existent in an ed…

The Year That Will Be...

Almost 10% of the not-so-new year is already gone past, and I was still struggling with this post ! Honestly, for the first time, I have no idea what I want from this year. I do not know if I'd have the courage to handle the sea changes that are staring at me from every facet of life ! Ideally, I should be able to embrace change - all it requires is a change in perspective. I have realized in the last year how deeply ingrained certain beliefs are. I always believed that one should strive hard to give his/her best in any given circumstance. By extension, taking a break - even a small one was an excuse to indulge in laziness. (wrong belief, I know - can't seem to get over it !) This thought can however be quite counter-productive at times. I was dragging myself to work even in the middle of serious illness and I really don't have anything much to show for it - today, as I look back, I don't know why I did it ! I would never know whether taking a more prolonged break wo…

Cocktail Time Again

The result of the first cocktail has been a heady mix of unconditional love, compassion, random acts of affection, and humurous dialogues along with bull-headedness, a penchant for perfection and steely determinism.

Unlike what was originally thought, lady has contributed quite a bit. As hubby says 'He looks like me, but the internal wiring is all yours !"

We, as mixers have done it again ! Results of cocktail round 2 eagerly awaited !

Australia – A-Z

Visiting Australia had been a long cherished dream, which finally came true this December. Here’s a list of thoughts and experiences around the vacation. Australia: It is vast, and we only covered a tip of it – Sydney, Melbourne and Kangaroo Island. Beaches: The beaches were beautiful and clean, and the water was icy cold (thanks to the close proximity of the Antartic), but somehow I always liked the beaches in Kerala the best. The wild passion of the sea in Kerala cannot be matched by the pristine calm of the international beaches. My son loved the beaches ! Bondi beach is just like Juhu beach with additional amenities – crowded with families. Christmas Day – Australia is literally shut down on Christmas Day, so we spent the day in Kangaroo Islands. We had hired a self-drive car and we drove down to a national park – and saw sea lions basking in the sun. We also saw some amazing rock formations and clicked a whole lot of pictures. We had our kind of fun. Eggs on Bread – That was the on…