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Leadership in Everyday Life..

...is often hardly about strategy or vision. Rather, it is about being able to effectively solve the minor irritants of day to day life...Last week, I recieved a call in the middle of a meeting from a very junior team member claiming that there were 'no rest rooms available' in the client location. This surprised me as it is a universal need and a basic requirement and it was unlikely that a place with nearly ten staff will not have such arrangements. A little bit of prodding revealed that the loos were indeed present and but were not upto her standard. This irked me no end due to multiple reasons. It was too trivial a reason to bother me with, and she could have either chosen to be resilient and face it chin up or be resourceful and find an answer to her problem herself...Finally, I digged into my reservoir of management intelligence and convinced her to continue with the work.

I face such situations almost on a regular basis. Being a lady means that I am inundated with suc…

Blessings...

...are often overlooked. The other day, I had a real tough time at work. This combined with pre-existing issues, drove me to the point of tears...I usually use the elevator as the transition point - the elevator to my work place is when I prioritize work over family in the mornings and the elevator in my apartment helps me switch back to being mom...On a really tiring day at work, I do a silent prayer to grant me patience as I enter home...

My son rushes to me with a smile everyday when I reach home...Yesterday though, as soon as he rushed into my arms, he took one look at my face and asked with genuine concern "Amma, what happened? Are you not well? Were you crying?" and with these words, the poor thing almost started having a meltdown himself. By which time I realised that as long as there are people who can be driven to the point of genuine tears, just because they think something is upsetting you...as long as that is there, life is still very much worth living....the re…

Being a Lady...

...in a male dominated work place is not easy...You will often find successful women in the corporate world saying that they never faced any discrimination or difficulty because they were women....And that is because they have learned the vital art of survival...which demands that you ignore any difficulties and go on.....and tell lies or rather 'politically correct' statements...the 'casting couch' and the 'glass ceiling' are both terms which represent realities and not figments of imagination....
Any attempt to point out any kind of 'non-acceptable' behaviour from the male colleagues and superiors is seen as a sign of weakness on the part of the lady - or worse still, as 'unprofessional' behaviour. This is then used as an instance to be quoted during appraisal meetings as 'an area of improvement'. Women who are fed up with this often end up opting for less lucrative careers or even no careers.
I have hardly seen any feminists in the …

SAHM Vs. Working Mom

This is a long pending post...almost 4 years in the making or maybe even more...ever since I became a parent, or rather, started thinking about it...
I am usually considered an extremely career-oriented woman - by people who do not know me well enough.
I am also considered a paranoid parent - again, by people who do not know me well enough. And, therein lies the problem...
A woman comes in all hues - just like a man...and trying to judge another person by your world view may not always be right ...
I have a certain priority for my career and a certain priority for my family - no one has the right to comment negatively about it, unless 1. they are close enough to be ok about me expressing my perspective and/or 2. they play an active role in shaping my career or my family or both.
This is the same across the spectrum of mothers - different people have different comfort levels, different family situations, different skills, different job opportunities, all of which play a role in the ch…

The Year That Will Be...

..shall be a year of growth ! Across all spectrums of life, growth and happiness are going to be the two themes that I shall work on...Anyone who equates self-growth and happiness to selfishness shall be ignored !
I have never struggled to write a post as much as I am struggling today..the mind is a maze of ideas, but I think I should go on a retreat to figure it all out and arrange it based on priorities...
I am also trying to see if daily baby steps shall result in some significant changes over a year....