Spirit Crushers

The other day I spoke with three different friends of mine - all of whom had lost the spirit of life. They all came from different environments and their problems too were unique. The common thread that emerged however was someone very close who acts as a well wisher but ultimately ends up crushing your spirit. These spirit crushers will continuously make one feel inadequate about dealing with one's life and would keep offering "valuable" advise and sometimes even lend out a helping hand....
They are great manipulators...There is no escape from them. You can't talk back to them either because you are dependent on them or because they are officially very close to you. Any time they sense that you are even remotely happy they will go to great lengths to hurt you and then make you feel that you got hurt 'cos of your own problems..You can't even run away from them ...They will not allow you to express your emotions...you cry and they'll say you are being vulnerable...you get angry and they'll say that you don't know how to behave...On the other hand they will use tears and emotional blackmail to very good effect...They will continue their tactics till you have given up all joy and hope about life...They will transform you to a walking ghost of your previous self...and that too a sad walking ghost...

P.S I too have my share of spirit crushers in my life...How do you deal with the ones in your life?

Comments

ray said…
Hi,

I was reading ur blog posts and found some of them to be very good.. u write well.. Why don't you popularize it more.. ur posts on ur blog ‘The Ice Furnace’ took my particular attention as some of them are interesting topics of mine too;

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Cheers,
Ray
Reflections said…
an eye-opening post!!!!

I mean these spirit crushers are all around but till today I never had a name for them.
Yes went thru quite a bit during a phase & I too kept thinking it was all because of me:-(.
Tinkerbells said…
@reflections: Thanks for the comment...and trust me we are all amazing in our own ways and no one has the right to make us feel otherwise !

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